One thing that 2019 is showing me is that there are many parents out there who need a little comfort. We had several people who were new come to the Candle Lighting—focus is now on them, and their comfort. Hopefully they felt welcomed and loved. Because we do welcome and love them.
Seeing people we had not seen for a while is very comforting and refreshing. Hoping that in 2019 we will see them more frequently. Joan, Wally, and Daniel. We are all very different, but our beautiful children unite us into one family. It doesn’t matter what or how it happened their death is the Golden thread that binds us together.
2019—we’ve got you !
We will face the ups and the downs together with love, hope, and comfort.
Mandy I love you!
Mary
A Note to the Recently Bereaved
Dear Friend,
I want you to know that the way you are feeling today – alone, lost and sad beyond measure, I have also felt, and still feel many times.
Without Change, There Would Be No Butterflies
When I heard that my heart was touched forever, in a good way. What a perfect time to hear that, year number eleven with Mandy gone. My beautiful butterfly.
I remember how we used to approach February Fifth… with great sadness, possibly anger, and totally lost. The first couple of years we made plans for the day, so we were prepared for the heartache. As time passed, we tried other approaches. To be honest not much really worked.
New Normal
Ten years ago, three months after our daughter Amanda died, Bob’s cousin and wife lost their son Eric. I was driving home from Melbourne when Bob called me. He was devastated. Hard to believe that a cousin he grew up with was now starting this journey with us. Although our friendship with Gary and Peggy was always “good” we would now be connected in a way we had never anticipated nor wanted.
Spring is Coming ~ Thank you Steven Curtis Chapman
Flowers, trees filling in with new leaves, great smells—love all of it! The new life it symbolizes is refreshing and renewing. Nothing ever stays the same. ❤ Nothing ever stays the same.
That kind of says it all, right? We have our lives heading in one direction, and whoosh we are spinning around, and heading the opposite way. Most of the time we aren’t really certain what hit us.